If you’re reading this, you might be in the middle of your own “reset” or “test”. Maybe you’re rebuilding after a crisis, navigating a new city, or just trying to make sense of life when everything feels upside down.
I’ve been there more than once. I know what it’s like to check your bank account and wonder how you’ll make rent, to feel like you’re always one step behind, and to wonder if anyone else gets it.
That’s why I started this blog: not just to tell my story, but to help you write yours.
What Nobody Tells You About Starting Over
- You’ll Feel Alone, But You’re Not:
Most people don’t talk about the messy middle. We talk about the struggle, we talk about the end results, but never the middle. The nights you spend at a friend’s house on the couch (thank you Felecia!!!), the days you juggle gig work and invoices, and especially the moments you want to give up.
But there’s a whole community out here who understands and has experienced what you’re experiencing. (If you’re reading this, you’ve found one.) - Systems Aren’t Built for Us, But We Can Hack Them:
I’ve learned how to navigate digital tools, rental applications, and even Cash App statements because I had to. I had to leverage whatever I had to get things done. It was not pretty. But the more information you find, the more assistance you can get.
I’ll try to share the resources that actually work. No gatekeeping over here. - Your Story Is Your Superpower:
For years, I hid the hardest parts of my story. Now, I know that sharing what I’ve survived is what helps others and what makes me unstoppable. Even while it’s happening in real time.
2 Practical Lessons I’ve Learned (That You Can Use Today)
1. Document Everything
Keep a running list of your wins, payments, and even your struggles. It’s proof for landlords, agencies, and most importantly, yourself. My therapist and I like to call these struggles I’ve overcome my “resume,” so during the moments where I feel like I’m not as successful as I should have been, I’m reminded of what I can do.
2. Ask for Help—Even When It’s Hard
The hardest thing about asking for help is the fear of being judged. But every time I reached out to my circle of support, I found at least one person who could help without judgment. We are not a burden to our support systems. Please remember that. Don’t wait until things become worse.
3. Recognize that it’s going to feel uncomfortable to tackle the issues you are facing, but we are capable of doing hard things
This was a big one for me. I only did the things that were comfortable for me to do and avoided or delayed the things that I hated doing, making phone calls, going to the office to meet with people, and doing my taxes. I avoided the most important things that would have kept me stable and dealt with the things that were on fire. Tackle the hard things in small bite-sized steps.
Why I’m Sharing This Now
I want this blog to be a space where we talk about whats happening because the truth is, Im scared of whats happening here in America.
So I want this to be a space where we can talk about:
- How to survive when you’re in survival mode
- How to build digital skills from scratch
- How to turn your lived experience into power, not shame
If you’ve ever felt like you were being bogged down by life, hitting brick wall after brick wall or just sick of trying to figure out the best move to not drown in debt, stress and bills, you belong here.
Let’s Build This Community—Together
- Comment below: What’s the hardest part of starting over for you? What do you wish someone had told you?
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You’re not alone. Your story matters. And this is just the beginning.
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